Girl-Father

The Overcomers/Girl-Father Pattern
(Conscious Girlchild, Subconscious Father)

The Girl-Father pattern is rare and complex, and leads them into many different lines of work. Conscious Girlchild seeks to help others with caring, sensitivity and finesse, but Father downstairs only wants to dominate the world with his rules and guidelines. “Now we must incorporate the ten commandments,” he tells her, or “We’ve got to get rid of all the bad guys on a global scale right now.” Subconscious Father has stocked up tanks in the basement but depends on conscious Girlchild to carry out his plans. “Yes, I agree with you one hundred percent,” Girlchild tells him. “Let’s all hug.” It is like trying to hammer a nail with a piece of linguini. Subconscious Father needs everything straightened out immediately. Girl-Fathers have a very strong perfectionist mechanism and high expectation of themselves.

When people come across a Girl-Father type, they first encounter the softness of Girlchild and everything is warm, fuzzy and inviting. Then, once they get to know them and subconscious Father comes out, zing—they find that under the velvet glove is a fist of iron. Subconscious Father comes out in a pinch, when everyone least expects him, and he is very intense. It is like biting into something soft, chewy and sweet—and chipping your tooth. The energy Girl-Fathers release tends to offend others, because most people are uncomfortable with it.

Girl-Fathers bring us an unparalleled opportunity to acclimate ourselves to Father energy, even though initially, we may find it disturbing. When we come across Girl-Fathers, we must recognize that they only want what is best. Instead of reacting negatively when they become too pushy, we need to be kind, generous and patient with them, and remember that having subconscious Father is not easy. Subconscious Father, to conscious Girlchild, is like a grim reaper lurking in the bushes waiting to strike. His criticism seeks to tear down whatever she is doing. It also tends to magnetize criticism from others, which then provides Girl-Fathers with an opportunity to be injured by somebody else. Even if the outside criticism matches what subconscious Father has been saying all along, he does not take it well. He will not tolerate that others abuse Girlchild with the same criticism he regularly dishes out. Then, when conscious Girlchild says, “Let’s give that person another chance,” subconscious Father will most likely refuse. Girl-Fathers either keep ahead of their criticism pattern or get eaten up by it. They must put aside their jadedness, and their lust to criticize and to be criticized.

As Girl-Fathers learn to harness Father’s energy to protect Girlchild instead of to criticize her, they gain mastery. They build a solid platform of self-esteem from where they can reach out to others. Girl-Fathers can be great overcomers who tend to be rewarded as the years go by and who mellow out in time. When they finally conquer their internal criticism pattern, they become unstoppable. They can share their victory with others and be instruments of healing and conversion.

The Girl-Father pattern is like a story about workers in a field. One worker was given a large stone to carry for years and years; another was not. After many humiliating years of not measuring up, the worker with the stone had learned to keep up and even excel. Then, one day, he was relieved of his stone and the worker who had never carried a stone could no longer keep up with the other worker’s newfound freedom, endurance and strength. Like that worker in the field, if Girl-Fathers will only forgive those who have placed burdens upon them and keep on keeping on, they will find that in time, their stones will be removed. Then, they will walk as the greatest among us and inspire us to follow in their steps.

~Girl-Fathers have a rare and complex pattern. The split between conscious and subconscious archetypes is most extreme for them.

~They have a strong perfectionist mechanism and often have severe self-criticism. They can come off as very intense.

~They appear to be soft and gentle and surprise people with the harshness of subconscious Unloving Father.

~They can manifest their Father archetype at the conscious level more easily than anyone.

~They usually have severe childhood experiences to work through.

~They are great overcomers.

The Girl-Father pattern is described in greater detail in the books, The Inner Family Archetypes: Building Loving Relationships Through Divine Self-Awareness and Why We Do What We Do.




	The Overcomers/Girl-Father Pattern (Conscious Girlchild, Subconscious Father) The Girl-Father pattern is rare and complex, and leads them into many different lines of work. Conscious Girlchild seeks to help others with caring, sensitivity and finesse, but Father downstairs only wants to dominate the world with his rules and guidelines. “Now we must incorporate the ten commandments,” he tells her, or “We’ve got to get rid of all the bad guys on a global scale right now.” Subconscious Father has stocked up tanks in the basement but depends on conscious Girlchild to carry out his plans. “Yes, I agree with you one hundred percent,” Girlchild tells him. “Let’s all hug.” It is like trying to hammer a nail with a piece of linguini. Subconscious Father needs everything straightened out immediately. Girl-Fathers have a very strong perfectionist mechanism and high expectation of themselves. When people come across a Girl-Father type, they first encounter the softness of Girlchild and everything is warm, fuzzy and inviting. Then, once they get to know them and subconscious Father comes out, zing—they find that under the velvet glove is a fist of iron. Subconscious Father comes out in a pinch, when everyone least expects him, and he is very intense. It is like biting into something soft, chewy and sweet—and chipping your tooth. The energy Girl-Fathers release tends to offend others, because most people are uncomfortable with it. Girl-Fathers bring us an unparalleled opportunity to acclimate ourselves to Father energy, even though initially, we may find it disturbing. When we come across Girl-Fathers, we must recognize that they only want what is best. Instead of reacting negatively when they become too pushy, we need to be kind, generous and patient with them, and remember that having subconscious Father is not easy. Subconscious Father, to conscious Girlchild, is like a grim reaper lurking in the bushes waiting to strike. His criticism seeks to tear down whatever she is doing. It also tends to magnetize criticism from others, which then provides Girl-Fathers with an opportunity to be injured by somebody else. Even if the outside criticism matches what subconscious Father has been saying all along, he does not take it well. He will not tolerate that others abuse Girlchild with the same criticism he regularly dishes out. Then, when conscious Girlchild says, “Let’s give that person another chance,” subconscious Father will most likely refuse. Girl-Fathers either keep ahead of their criticism pattern or get eaten up by it. They must put aside their jadedness, and their lust to criticize and to be criticized. As Girl-Fathers learn to harness Father’s energy to protect Girlchild instead of to criticize her, they gain mastery. They build a solid platform of self-esteem from where they can reach out to others. Girl-Fathers can be great overcomers who tend to be rewarded as the years go by and who mellow out in time. When they finally conquer their internal criticism pattern, they become unstoppable. They can share their victory with others and be instruments of healing and conversion. The Girl-Father pattern is like a story about workers in a field. One worker was given a large stone to carry for years and years; another was not. After many humiliating years of not measuring up, the worker with the stone had learned to keep up and even excel. Then, one day, he was relieved of his stone and the worker who had never carried a stone could no longer keep up with the other worker’s newfound freedom, endurance and strength. Like that worker in the field, if Girl-Fathers will only forgive those who have placed burdens upon them and keep on keeping on, they will find that in time, their stones will be removed. Then, they will walk as the greatest among us and inspire us to follow in their steps. ~Girl-Fathers have a rare and complex pattern. The split between conscious and subconscious archetypes is most extreme for them. ~They have a strong perfectionist mechanism and often have severe self-criticism. They can come off as very intense. ~They appear to be soft and gentle and surprise people with the harshness of subconscious Unloving Father. ~They can manifest their Father archetype at the conscious level more easily than anyone. ~They usually have severe childhood experiences to work through. ~They are great overcomers. The Girl-Father pattern is described in greater detail in the books, The Inner Family Archetypes: Building Loving Relationships Through Divine Self-Awareness and Why We Do What We Do.