Boy-Girl

The Crusaders/Boy-Girl Pattern
(Conscious Boychild, Subconscious Girlchild)

Passion is what drives people who have a conscious Boychild and subconscious Girlchild pattern of behavior. Boy-Girls are crusaders. They are very energetic and extremely creative. They can work miracles. They can sell ice cubes to Eskimos. They are good writers and storytellers and have a wonderful stage presence about them. With their double-child drama, sensitivity, charm and sense of humor, they can access a gamut of emotions to make their audience laugh, cry or rally together. Many Hollywood actors seem to have this pattern. Under their dynamic, creative, adventurous, gutsy and charming Boychild presence lies a soft spot, their Girlchild’s care and sensitivity.

Boy-Girls also have an ongoing desire to rescue seemingly lost causes. This is the shepherd mechanism. Their greatest love is to take something in an underdog position and raise it up, be it a person or a cause. Boy-Girls are extremely motivated and earnest. Even though most Boy-Girls want to be in charge, they will easily give their authority and leadership to another, so long as the person in charge stays in line. But if their leader abuses power in any way, it becomes very difficult to keep their support.

Boy-Girls will work day and night for you as long as you treat them right and as long as they feel the cause you are working for is righteous. When they are on your team and functioning at their best, they will do a good job every time. Their loyalty and dedication can really pull things off. The challenge they bring to others is that they tend to behave in an all-or-nothing way and want things done yesterday. They become easily bored and need continuous stimulation to keep their attention focused and their interest from fading.

Boy-Girls live to bring their realizations into the world. They can be fiery preachers and evangelists. They can also make people uncomfortable because they are like a wild card that cannot be controlled. With their double child energy, they lack a certain adult composure and can become untethered like a helium balloon. As a result, many people criticize them as unstable and they, in turn, tend to criticize themselves.

Relationships with Boy-Girls can be wonderful, but when they go sour, things can get very ugly. When this happens, it is best not to take the situation personally and understand that the china of Boy-Girls’ sensitivity was knocked over, setting off an alarm. Even if the Boy-Girls were not personally offended, someone or something they were in support of was, which detonated their subconscious Girlchild victim pattern.

Boy-Girls wear their feelings on their coat sleeve. You never have to ask them, “Gee, how are you feeling today?” because it is obvious. They often succumb to an aggressive victim pattern. Girlchild gets hurt or upset about something: “You did this to me!” And Boychild becomes aggressive to rectify the situation. Any time Girlchild feels victimized, Boychild believes he has every right to control others through whatever aggressive tactic that is necessary.

When Boy-Girls are not hurt by someone externally, they tend to persecute themselves. Like a painter who gets lost in his canvas, Boy-Girls tend to get lost in the moment. A moment, for them, turns into eternity. When the moment is beautiful, they are transported and enthralled. When life disappoints them, they become lead-heavy and toxic.

The minute we tell Boy-Girls how to transcend their negative pattern, they tend to get very excited and want to heroically do it right away. It is important for Boy-Girls to know that we are there for them, that we hear what they are saying and that we are not denying them or what they are saying. Otherwise, we may break their trust and, once that trust is broken, it is very difficult to get back. To keep their trust, we must always go the extra mile and let them know what we are about and what our intentions are.

~Boy-Girls are very energetic and extremely creative.

~They are always looking to help the underdog and love crusades.

~Their loyalty and dedication pulls things off, but they tend to be all-or-nothing and want everything done right away.

~They are not easily controlled. Others may put them down as being unstable, while still making use of their talents.

~Boy-Girls wear their feelings on their coat sleeve and sometimes succumb to an aggressive victim pattern.

~They tend to dwell in the moment.

The Boy-Girl pattern is described in greater detail in the books, The Inner Family Archetypes: Building Loving Relationships Through Divine Self-Awareness and Why We Do What We Do.




	The Crusaders/Boy-Girl Pattern (Conscious Boychild, Subconscious Girlchild) Passion is what drives people who have a conscious Boychild and subconscious Girlchild pattern of behavior. Boy-Girls are crusaders. They are very energetic and extremely creative. They can work miracles. They can sell ice cubes to Eskimos. They are good writers and storytellers and have a wonderful stage presence about them. With their double-child drama, sensitivity, charm and sense of humor, they can access a gamut of emotions to make their audience laugh, cry or rally together. Many Hollywood actors seem to have this pattern. Under their dynamic, creative, adventurous, gutsy and charming Boychild presence lies a soft spot, their Girlchild’s care and sensitivity. Boy-Girls also have an ongoing desire to rescue seemingly lost causes. This is the shepherd mechanism. Their greatest love is to take something in an underdog position and raise it up, be it a person or a cause. Boy-Girls are extremely motivated and earnest. Even though most Boy-Girls want to be in charge, they will easily give their authority and leadership to another, so long as the person in charge stays in line. But if their leader abuses power in any way, it becomes very difficult to keep their support. Boy-Girls will work day and night for you as long as you treat them right and as long as they feel the cause you are working for is righteous. When they are on your team and functioning at their best, they will do a good job every time. Their loyalty and dedication can really pull things off. The challenge they bring to others is that they tend to behave in an all-or-nothing way and want things done yesterday. They become easily bored and need continuous stimulation to keep their attention focused and their interest from fading. Boy-Girls live to bring their realizations into the world. They can be fiery preachers and evangelists. They can also make people uncomfortable because they are like a wild card that cannot be controlled. With their double child energy, they lack a certain adult composure and can become untethered like a helium balloon. As a result, many people criticize them as unstable and they, in turn, tend to criticize themselves. Relationships with Boy-Girls can be wonderful, but when they go sour, things can get very ugly. When this happens, it is best not to take the situation personally and understand that the china of Boy-Girls’ sensitivity was knocked over, setting off an alarm. Even if the Boy-Girls were not personally offended, someone or something they were in support of was, which detonated their subconscious Girlchild victim pattern. Boy-Girls wear their feelings on their coat sleeve. You never have to ask them, “Gee, how are you feeling today?” because it is obvious. They often succumb to an aggressive victim pattern. Girlchild gets hurt or upset about something: “You did this to me!” And Boychild becomes aggressive to rectify the situation. Any time Girlchild feels victimized, Boychild believes he has every right to control others through whatever aggressive tactic that is necessary. When Boy-Girls are not hurt by someone externally, they tend to persecute themselves. Like a painter who gets lost in his canvas, Boy-Girls tend to get lost in the moment. A moment, for them, turns into eternity. When the moment is beautiful, they are transported and enthralled. When life disappoints them, they become lead-heavy and toxic. The minute we tell Boy-Girls how to transcend their negative pattern, they tend to get very excited and want to heroically do it right away. It is important for Boy-Girls to know that we are there for them, that we hear what they are saying and that we are not denying them or what they are saying. Otherwise, we may break their trust and, once that trust is broken, it is very difficult to get back. To keep their trust, we must always go the extra mile and let them know what we are about and what our intentions are. ~Boy-Girls are very energetic and extremely creative. ~They are always looking to help the underdog and love crusades. ~Their loyalty and dedication pulls things off, but they tend to be all-or-nothing and want everything done right away. ~They are not easily controlled. Others may put them down as being unstable, while still making use of their talents. ~Boy-Girls wear their feelings on their coat sleeve and sometimes succumb to an aggressive victim pattern. ~They tend to dwell in the moment. The Boy-Girl pattern is described in greater detail in the books, The Inner Family Archetypes: Building Loving Relationships Through Divine Self-Awareness and Why We Do What We Do.